You know how it is, right, ladies? You know a guy for a while. You hang out with him. You do fun things with him—play video games, watch movies, go hiking, go to concerts. You invite him to your parties. You listen to his problems. You do all this because you think he wants to be your friend.
But then, then comes the fateful moment where you find out that all this time, he’s only seen you as a potential girlfriend. And then if you turn him down, he may never speak to you again. This has happened to me time after time: I hit it off with a guy, and, for all that I’ve been burned in the past, I start to think that this one might actually care about me as a person. And then he asks me on a date.
I tell him how much I enjoy his company, how much I value his friendship. I tell him that I really want to be his friend and to continue hanging out with him and talking about our favorite books or exploring new restaurants or making fun of avant-garde theatre productions. But he rejects me. He doesn’t answer my calls or e-mails; if we’d been making plans to do something before this fateful incident, these plans mysteriously fail to materialize. (This is why I never did get around to seeing the Hunger Games movie. Not to name any names, but thanks a lot, Tom.) Later, when I run into him at social events, our conversations are awkward and lukewarm. This is because the moment we met, he put me in the girlfriend-zone, and now he can’t see me as friend material.
I must say that I find this really unfair. I mean, I’m a nice girl. I have a lot to offer as a friend, like not being a douchebag and stuff. But males just don’t want to be friends with nice girls like me. They can’t help it, I guess; it’s just how they’re wired, biologically. Evolution conditioned our male hominid ancestors to seek nice girls as mates and form friendship bonds only with the other dudes that they hunted mammoths with. It’s true—I know this because I studied hominids in my fifth-grade science class.
So what’s the answer? Should I take up mammoth-hunting in an attempt to appeal to the friendship centers of men’s primal lizardbrains? Should I keep making guy “friends” and then prevent them from making a move on me by subtly undermining their self-confidence? Should I just give up on those manipulative, game-playing, two-faced bastards once and for all? I don’t know. I mean, I’d really like to have a true friendship with a guy someday, but it’s so hard to trust and respect them when they never say what they mean—and you never know when you might be relegated to the girlfriend-zone.
Like atoms we collided,
like atoms we divided.
I'll never let it show
I'll never let you know
And I'll be fucked if I ever do.
Intense concentration, but only when I'm thinking about things that aren't the thoughts I was to have.
This is what was said, but nothing was heard.
The mechanics of logic, rhythm and motion.
I won't be the night this time, before I go out of my mind, over matters got my foot on the ladder and I'm climbing up to the moon.
about me? / music I like?
My name is Madeline and something something
Pull back the curtain and let some light in.
ask me something
Make up something to believe in your heart of hearts • Well go on. You came here for something.
fresh air, a nice new suit, a walk in the park
Shakespeare gets diagrammatic.
These visualised Shakespeare quotes are dope. Part of a series, they were designed by Nicholas Weltyk to promote three productions from New York based art college, the Pratt Institute.
One for performing arts, literary, quote and maths-nerds to enjoy in equal measure.
BARD-ASS.
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John Atkinson Grimshaw (1836-1893), Victorian painter, influenced by Pre-Raphaelites.
1. An Idyll of Old Chelsea 1893.
2. Greenock Shipping 1881.
3. Leeds Bridge 1880.
4. Liverpool from Wapping 1885.
5. Liverpool Quay by Moonlight.
6. On Hampstead Hill 1881.
7. Park Row Leeds 1882.
8. Reflections on the Thames, Westminster 1880.
9. Yew Court, Scalby 1875.
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I’ve been waiting years for this gifset to come into my life.
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This Stardust styled shoot is nothing short of magical! The details capture the enchantment of the book perfectly but my favorite part by far is the wonderful camera trick that turned the bride into a luminous star herself!
- via Fab You Bliss
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one time I was really high and took a hot bath and I closed my eyes and imagined myself as a noodle floating in hot soup
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energy of this earth
Words simply cannot describe how much I desire lightning shows in the summers night
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